Insecurities, we all have them. We all strive to be perfect but tell me, what is the true definition of perfect? Is there even an exact definition? Everyone has their own meaning to the word ‘perfect’ whether its having a beautiful face, a nice butt, big boobs, an awesome personality, having lots of money, being a nice person, or all of the above. Does it all really matter? Do you feel the need to be ‘perfect’ to make yourself happy, or to satisfy the people around you?
Being on social media I have seen so many victims of cyber bullying, both male and female. I can never wrap my head around why people say such hurtful things to one another. Is it jealousy, hate or just for fun? How can one find pleasure in making other people feel like absolute crap. Picking at one small feature on a person and calling them names, as if life and growing up isn’t hard enough do we really need to add to that?
As you can probably imagine, I get a number of nasty messages a day. When I do voice it out I always get ‘oh but you put yourself on social media’ and? I also like to leave my house, does that mean I deserve to be hit by a car? No. It doesn’t matter what the circumstances are, it is never okay to put people down. Here’s an example for you, this morning I was casually checking my YouTube, replying to comments, as I do until I can across one that read ‘Your teeth are jacked’. I don’t think anyone can imagine how that made me feel. Now I’m not a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve. I usually just brush off hater comments, but this one got to me, why? Little does anyone know my teeth are my biggest insecurity. I rarely ever smile with my teeth showing because of how insecure it makes me, every time I do someone has to have their 2 cents ‘close your mouth’ ‘you’re pretty but your teeth are ugly’ are just some of the comments I have received. How does it make me feel? it makes me feel like sh*t. I know I don’t have the straightest teeth, but I really don’t need people to constantly remind me. I know I probably shouldn’t even be sharing any of this, but if it helps at least one person out & boosts their confidence I’ll go through it a million more times. Having people say things like that, makes me look in the mirror & wish I didn’t look the way I did. Nasty comments make us second guess ourselves, even the most confident of us are affected sometimes.
Cyber bullying or any bullying in general is not okay. Even if you’re having problems at home and need to let your anger out there are other ways to deal with it. Does making other people feel as bad as you do make you feel better about yourself? It probably doesn’t. We are all here, talking to someone about your issues always helps. You may not think it will, but try it. You’ll be surprised at how much better you feel.
As for me, I do intend on getting my teeth fixed one day, but not to please these trolls or anyone that has something to say. I want to do it for myself, its something I’ve wanted to do for a long time but gosh Invisalign is pricy! Haha And of course saving for these things takes time.
I am a true believer in ‘Everyone is beautiful in their own way’. Be proud of who you are, because you are beautiful, anyone who says otherwise is not worthy of your time.
And there’s always the magic buttons, block & delete!
Love & Light ♡